Escaping The Void : How to support victims out of emotionally abusive relationships

This important, accessible handbook helps readers to recognise and protect against emotional (narcissistic) abuse and its toxicity. The author also shows how to create and apply an escape plan. Escaping The Void is for anyone who needs to understand about narcissists, their behaviours and their impact at home, at work, in communities and culture.

Escaping The Void helps readers to understand, recognise and respond to the toxicity of emotional (narcissistic) abuse. The author records the typical journey of a target (‘victim’) of emotional/narcissistic abuse, from discovering their unhealthy relationship, to separation/divorce and starting a new, narcissist-free life. Readers learn from the author’s own experiences about the schemes, tricks and behaviours used by narcissists to stall, disrupt and punish their partner or friend. We see how lack of empathy, obsessive self-focus and entitlement drive narcissists to behave in ways that are difficult to comprehend as a life partner, close friend or work colleague: people are disposable pawns and relationships are transactions that bring personal gain. We see why these emotionally abusive and toxic relationships drain our energy, confidence and sense of who we are. The author takes us behind the narcissist’s mask, helping us to see why they must feel powerful and in control: they are grossly insecure and driven by fear. But Escaping The Void is much more than a book of analysis: it is also a book of action. Readers learn how to stand-up to bullying, set strong, protective boundaries and neutralise the narcissist’s sense of power. Comprehensive appendices focus on important topics: the divorce process (including the UK 'No Fault' divorce), where to find help and support from specialist agencies, how to engage narcissist-savvy legal support, healthy and unhealthy relationships and quotes from survivors of emotional abuse and those who help them. Escaping The Void is a practical, accessible handbook for anybody who faces narcissists and narcissism in their daily life. It is a powerful ally for those who desperately need to be heard and receive support. Ultimately, it is a story of how to escape from despair and the crazy-making world of the narcissist.