Not Always in the Mood : The New Science of Men, Sex, and Relationships

Everything we thought we knew about men’s sexual desire is completely wrong. Groundbreaking new research reveals it is far from the high, simple sex drive they’re stereotypically known for. Sarah Murray shatters our most damaging, long-held myths about men’s sexuality and helps couples connect more intimately and authentically than ever before.

If there is one thing we know about men and sex it is that men are always in the mood. Any time, any place. Right? Wrong. Men’s sexual desire has long been depicted as high, simple, and unwavering. But the new research around men’s desire tells us this is far from true; and that good sex and relationships are suffering from these long-held misconceptions. In Not Always in the Mood: The New Science on Men, Sex, and Relationships sex researcher and relationship therapist Sarah Hunter Murray presents a lively, timely, and critical exploration of the newest, most surprising science on men and sex, shattering myths about men’s sexuality and helping today’s couples connect more deeply and authentically than ever before. One-by-one, Murray examines the most detrimental, deep-held beliefs we as a society promote around men and their desire, and dive into how they affect our intimate relationships daily – and what to do about it. Do men actually crave and enjoy sex more than women? Do men “do the wanting” and prefer the chase? Where do they stand on sexual rejection? What’s the deal with porn? Answering these questions and more, this is a book for modern women and men alike. Moving beyond typical “here’s what he likes” sexual tips, the book empowers readers and offers a completely new perspective on sexuality that will validate men’s experiences and help their partners to a greater understanding of the psychology and emotions surrounding them.