Secure : The Revolutionary Guide to Creating a Secure Life

What’s the secret to finding success, happiness and love? You need to feel SECURE. ‘Psychiatrist Amir Levine gives us a set of tools to help us feel more secure in all our relationships, not just romantic ones, but with colleagues, friends, family and even with ourselves.’ PHILIPPA PERRY‘In a world where so many people feel disconnected, this book explains why that hurts so much and, more importantly, what we can actually do about it.’ RANGAN CHATTERJEE‘It’s so good . . . I’ve read it cover-to-cover, back-to-front, upside-down, inside-out: it's great.’ CHRIS EVANSHow do you become more connected to the people around you, without the fear of being hurt? How can you stop overthinking and letting your emotions impair your judgement? Is it possible to learn emotional resilience? People with a secure attachment style are the most comfortable not just in their relationships, but also in their own skin. Living life in ‘secure mode’ enables them to cope more effectively with challenges across many areas of life – they’re healthier, less reactive, less driven by insecurity, and better able to navigate setbacks and even social media. It is as though they move through the world with a kind of resilient bubble around them. But new research reveals that your attachment style isn’t fixed. Anyone can become SECURE. In Secure, Dr Amir Levine – multimillion-copy-bestselling author of Attached, and the world’s leading expert on the clinical application of attachment science – introduces a transformative framework feeling more secure in your career, your friendships, your romantic life and beyond. Along the way, he makes a simple, revolutionary argument: when you harness the power of secure mode, you can create the life you want. It’s never too late to become SECURE. This book will show you how. What readers are saying? ? ? ? ? 'A holy grail book . . . essential reading for anyone wanting to work on themself.'? ? ? ? ? 'For anyone who has ever felt stuck in patterns of anxiety, avoidance or disconnection, this book offers something genuinely hopeful . . . It is, in the best sense, a practical guide to flourishing.'? ? ? ? ? 'I'm blown away by the real-life pearls packed into it . . . I can’t recommend it enough!'? ? ? ? ? 'A rare and compelling combination of neuroscience and clinical practice that I could not put down . . . Will make any avoidant or anxious person feel less shame and more understood.' ? ? ? ? ? 'This book will change your life.'More praise for Secure:‘A groundbreaking roadmap to emotional resilience . . . Whether you’re anxious, avoidant, or somewhere in between, this book helps you to shift into “secure mode” and thrive.’ CHARLES DUHIGG, bestselling author of The Power of Habit 'A profound new model for creating real, lasting security in our patients and in ourselves.' LORI GOTTLIEB, bestselling author of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone‘A rare kind of guide: humane, hopeful, and immediately useful for anyone who wants to show up better for the people who matter most.’ AMY EDMONDSON, author of Right Kind of Wrong‘With science and compassion, Dr. Levine reveals the emotional grounding we need to live, work and lead with resilience. Secure offers a vital roadmap to the inner strength that makes sustainable success possible.’ ARIANNA HUFFINGTON, bestselling author of Thrive