The Neurodivergent and LGBTQ+ Sex Playbook : Discovering Sex That Works for You

An affirming, activity-based exploration of sex and intimacy for queer neurodivergent adults, including those who are kinky, non-monogamous, or otherwise erotically minoritised. Grounded in trauma-informed sex therapy, it supports self-discovery, sensory awareness, and shaping intimacy on your own terms.

There is no shortage of sex books telling you how it's supposed to work. What they rarely offer is the invitation to pause, reflect, and discover what genuinely resonates with you. Especially for queer neurodivergent adults, navigating intimacy can feel confusing, alienating, or shaped by assumptions that never considered your unique heart, mind, or nervous system. The Neurodivergent and LGBTQ+ Sex Playbook is not a set of rules or a step-by-step guide, but a compassionate tool for exploration. Psychosexual psychotherapist Tiga-Rose Nercessian invites readers into a process of sexual cartography to better understand how neurodivergence shapes their intimate lives: gently exploring their sensory needs, boundaries, desires, and emotional patterns. Reflective exercises are woven throughout, encouraging readers to move at their own pace and become the expert on their sexual landscape. Grounded in lived experience, accessibility, and radical self-advocacy, the book explores topics rarely centred elsewhere, including masking, meltdowns, consent, neurodivergent arousal, and the impact of ADHD medication. This book isn't about becoming palatable, performative, or 'normal'.It's about feeling more at home in your body, clearer and more confident in your wants and limits, and more empowered to shape sex and reclaim intimacy on your own terms.